Patience is Kindness

If you are really struggling to start a new routine and feeling guilty or depressed and feeling like you “should” do yoga or stretch or etc etc…. Ask yourself, “what do I need?” Often we are avoiding a task for another reason and once we figure out what it is, we can meet our needs in order to do the new task. This could be a long or short process. With patience and kindness, one day you will just pick up the task. I’ve been feeling like I should do yoga in the morning when I wake up, but I had a STRONG avoidance to the task, even to the point of panic if I began doing yoga. My mind would go to all the times someone has said, “You should just do it anyway. It’s good for you.” And so I felt like I was doing something wrong. Yet the body has wisdom and I was learning to listen, so I continued to listen to me. I found out that what I needed was to master some other care tasks before I began doing this one. My body was wise and I listened. This morning I am waking up feeling accomplished, because I have shown myself grace, patience, and kindness. This morning I am waking up and I actually want to do yoga, so I will. We don’t have to push ourselves through everything if it’s not necessary. Sometimes we can be patient and listen to the quieter needs of ourselves and wait for growth to happen. Sometimes it’s about LOVE.

J/k… It’s always about LoVe. 🦌❤️🔥🙏

Communal Loadwork

I find it incredibly cruel to insist upon calmness and positivity from someone who is currently triggered. It’s like a slap in the face to an already disregulated nervous system, asking for more energy from a maxed out platform. We can be better friends and confidants if we can ask ourselves to listen without taking the volume or choice of words personally unless it is directed toward us. I find often, it’s more of an explosion of emotion from holding them within or having to undergo a long term stressful situation. If we can’t handle the extra energy ourselves, we can create a loving boundary stating that fact rather than insist the other person must change, which can make them feel wrong or unloved. We can be kinder this way and allow our loved ones to express themselves freely and heal, while also creating more connection. We can all do our part of the work. It makes us all grow!